Maintenance of Friendships
Written 2 March 2006
A few days ago i was thinking about this, but didnt get to pen it down.. i was revaluating the friendships i have. People whom i used to consider close and dear to me, are they still as close or as dear now? Time awashes everything, that i understand. But are our friendships so easily washed away and diminished because of time? I am not asking for these bonds to last forever, and i know reality doesn't allow that to happen either. But sometiems the idealist in me just wonders, what weight do those friends carry in my heart now?
Relationships of all kinds, requires constant nurturing. Tending to a relationship is like growing a pot of flowers. You need to constantly nourish it with water and fertilizers, need to weed out the ills and eliminate whatever pests eating up your plant. You need to give it ample sunlight so that it would grow, give it enough care and concern so that buds will emerge, and beautiful flowers bloom.
Relationships, like communication, are never one-way. It takes the efforts of both or more parties to make it work. I always believed that good relationships don't just come by, you have to work to make it good. Now, i think back on those friends whom i used to cry to, whine to, those friends whom knew me inside out and bothered to understand me, they are the ones who have seen my best and worst. What are their positions in my heart now? Have i at least worked my part to maintain them? Have they also, put in the effort?
As much as i really want to keep them there, as much as i treasure them, it seems like, there are other things in my life which gradually overtook their significance in my life. And it pains me so.
Ironic huh.
Its as if circumstances forced me to "abandon" them, but the truth is, i havent been working on it either. But when i look back and there are subtle traces of regret, its too late to reconnect that half broken wire.
Somethings, once faded, never comes back again.
Its not a question of blame. Its a question of the heart.
Although we might have drifted apart, and things will never go back to where it was, but i'll never forget times when they've helped me so much, pulling me out of darkness and facing the grey clouds with me.
I used to be able to promise that i'll be there for you. But now, its not even whether my promise still stands.. It is whether you would still come to me. I guess, this problem is true for me too. I don't want to make a promise that i know i won't have the opportunity to fulfil. Neither do i want you to do the same.
But all i can say is that, life is never too busy for good ole friends.
A few days ago i was thinking about this, but didnt get to pen it down.. i was revaluating the friendships i have. People whom i used to consider close and dear to me, are they still as close or as dear now? Time awashes everything, that i understand. But are our friendships so easily washed away and diminished because of time? I am not asking for these bonds to last forever, and i know reality doesn't allow that to happen either. But sometiems the idealist in me just wonders, what weight do those friends carry in my heart now?
Relationships of all kinds, requires constant nurturing. Tending to a relationship is like growing a pot of flowers. You need to constantly nourish it with water and fertilizers, need to weed out the ills and eliminate whatever pests eating up your plant. You need to give it ample sunlight so that it would grow, give it enough care and concern so that buds will emerge, and beautiful flowers bloom.
Relationships, like communication, are never one-way. It takes the efforts of both or more parties to make it work. I always believed that good relationships don't just come by, you have to work to make it good. Now, i think back on those friends whom i used to cry to, whine to, those friends whom knew me inside out and bothered to understand me, they are the ones who have seen my best and worst. What are their positions in my heart now? Have i at least worked my part to maintain them? Have they also, put in the effort?
As much as i really want to keep them there, as much as i treasure them, it seems like, there are other things in my life which gradually overtook their significance in my life. And it pains me so.
Ironic huh.
Its as if circumstances forced me to "abandon" them, but the truth is, i havent been working on it either. But when i look back and there are subtle traces of regret, its too late to reconnect that half broken wire.
Somethings, once faded, never comes back again.
Its not a question of blame. Its a question of the heart.
Although we might have drifted apart, and things will never go back to where it was, but i'll never forget times when they've helped me so much, pulling me out of darkness and facing the grey clouds with me.
I used to be able to promise that i'll be there for you. But now, its not even whether my promise still stands.. It is whether you would still come to me. I guess, this problem is true for me too. I don't want to make a promise that i know i won't have the opportunity to fulfil. Neither do i want you to do the same.
But all i can say is that, life is never too busy for good ole friends.
posted by Rayne at 12:20 AM
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